Separate bedrooms – a growing trend
Is the relationship ruined if you long for your own bed? Or does sleeping separately even encourage it? Martin Wetscher, furnishing expert from the Zillertal, says quite clearly: No! A plea for separate bedrooms, which are slowly but surely becoming a trend.
We listen to Hollywood stars when it comes to tips and tricks about nutrition and styling, so why not also when it comes to really basic topics, such as sleeping better? Cameron Diaz said not so long ago: “We should normalize the issue of separate bedrooms.”
In her home country, the USA, around a third of all couples now sleep in separate beds. Martin Wetscher, a furnishing expert from the Zillertal valley, who also makes sleeping dreams come true with his living galleries (www.wetscher.com), knows that this topic is also becoming increasingly important in this country. “People are becoming more and more aware of the issue,” says Wetscher, “provided, of course, that you have the necessary space. Ideally, such a solution should be taken into account during construction.”
What the solution looks like is, of course, individual. “Separate bedrooms are often connected by a large shared bathroom,” says Wetscher. A shared dressing room is also not uncommon.”
Why separate bedrooms?
But why should couples decide to sleep separately in future? There are plenty of reasons for this – especially the older you get. “The art of sleeping well and deeply anywhere and at any time becomes less and less important in the course of life, just as the desire for undisturbed rest increases,” writes Wetscher in his plea for separate bedrooms. For a long time, it was the children – whether as babies or as teenagers of going-out age – who robbed their parents of sleep, but in old age it is often other things that are not necessarily alarming for the relationship. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be snoring. Wetscher on the subject: “Habits often don’t develop in line with those of your partner. For example, one person wants to wake up in a dark room, while the other wants to be woken up by the sun. Or one person wants to read in bed, while the other wants to watch TV.”
The different culture of sleep
Wetscher also raises the question of why separate sleeping is actually so frowned upon in this country. “The Japanese only sleep in twin beds. If you want to extend an invitation to your partner, you charmingly place a pillow in his or her bed.” The aforementioned Cameron Diaz also has her theory on perfection: “For me, that would mean: I sleep in my room, he sleeps in his room. And then there’s the bedroom in the middle where we meet for our relationship.”
From thought to implementation
All well and good – but how do you communicate your wish correctly? Wetscher: “As a conclusion to my various considerations, my advice is to take flight. If your gut feeling tells you that the time has come for a separate bedroom and you can spare the space for it, you should start planning.” Mature living is like mature wine and cheese: “It gets better and better, but can give you a headache or stomach ache if handled incorrectly and consumed excessively.